Trained as a Marriage and Family Therapist, I understand the importance of connection and belonging. I use Gottman, EFT, and PACT, along with IFS and psychodynamic approaches, to help couples and families recognize and break out of unhealthy relationship patterns, and to help individuals understand how relationships and past experiences have shaped who they are so they may heal from complex trauma.
For me, this work is all about being witness to and honoring the journey that you, your family, or your relationship may be going through. I have helped families deal with parent-child conflict and estrangement, divorce and co-parenting concerns, and communication issues. I’ve guided couples preparing for marriage, healing from infidelity, and doing the messy work of restructuring after divorce. I am adept at helping people with personality disorders, or those who love or are impacted by narcissists or emotionally immature loved ones. I create understanding rather than blame because I approach this work with an attachment lens, rather judgment.
My approach integrates both “top-down” and “bottom-up” ways of working. We may use insight and reflection to understand the thoughts, beliefs, relationship patterns, and experiences that shape how you respond to the world. We may also work more directly with emotions, physical sensations, and the nervous system to develop greater capacity to navigate and respond to difficult experiences. Therapy with me helps you not just think differently, but feel the world differently too.
My feminist and anti-racist background informs how I approach therapy, including attention to the ways that identity, culture, gender, relationships, and larger systems shape our experiences. I provide LGBTQIA+ and gender-affirming care and strive to create a space where people can explore who they are without judgment. I have a particular interest in working with young men who are trying to better understand themselves, their relationships, and their place in the world.
I offer both in-person and telehealth services. I offer free 15 minute consultations so we can ensure you will get what you want, need, and deserve from therapy. Please don’t hesitate to reach out!
GarrettM@bluebirdcounselingllc.com
651-661-2013